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Published 1 year, 10 months ago in My life.So - I’m getting married this year and want the wedding to be a great party but do not want to have to sell my hair to a wig-maker to have to pay for it!
Anyone want to share ideas on how they made their “big day” a day to remember?
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The great party could be held at home as a BYO BBQ with wedding cake. Newly weds should not be expected to have to shout every man and his dog at the start of their new life together. Anyone who protests should be excluded because they obviously don’t have the couples best interest at heart. Have a happy life, cheers.
The wedding reception/breakfast should be a celebration and not just a chance to get drunk for free!
The wedding day is the start of a new life and not a new debt. Meinrosebud has a good point. Do it at home in the garden or borrow a friend’s or relative’s place that is big enough to hold a wedding party. You can create your own music easily nowadays with a lap top, a good MP3 player. an amplifier and a couple of good speakers. I have done this on many occassions. Create your own fun basically while maintaining a budget. If you need a live band, ask your friends as you never know if there might be some musos among your friends. If there are no musos among your friend, let me know as I have a Jazz band and we do social functions. If the date and place is right I might convince my band members to donate some of their time for a good cause if we are available on your wedding day. All we ask is some food, drinks and petrol money.
If you want to supply drinks, look for specials throughout the year and buy them whenever they are on offer. Talk to a winery and see if they can supply wine at a special price. If you don’t know any winery owner, let me know as I have a good friend who owns a winery that supplies good wine.
Anymore ideas and I could be mistaken for a wedding organiser. Good Luck.
Fretstick - you are a total gem!! The wedding is interstate, but your kind offers and ideas have really touched me. I totally believe in what goes around comes around so I hope really nice yummy things are coming to you!
Meinrosebud you are so right weddings are total commercial ripoffs( as soon as you say wedding the price triples) but as the wedding is in Perth and some of the guests will also be from out of town we really want to be able to offer our guests something special. My partner and I are both a little older (cough cough) so hopefully we have weeded the people who would come just to get drunk out of our lives.
Great ideas folks keep em coming! Decorations, ceremonies, formats, funny stories I’d love to hear it!
As I told my son when his partner was planning a wedding (and I think hoping that we would cough up $5000 for the reception), Getting married is not about the party it is about the act. It is supposed to be about two people joining together to share their lives, hopes, and dreams. The best wedding in the world can be held in a tin shed in the back of Bourke if the people getting married really love each other. The party is window dressing for the world. If you are in love it doesn’t matter about the reception what matters it being there with the person you love.
Actually the party does matter as the ceremony will be part of it. Our dear friends, families and role models from childhood are over-joyed for us and we would like to show our love, respect and thanks by offering a small gesture of hospitality. That really does matter to us!
I understand the sentiment but really a tin shed is not going to cut it. Many of the guests are in their 70’s and we need to think of their comfort.
We have not asked anybody for any money and are paying for it all ourselves. I just wondered if anyone had any ideas to minimise the outlay as weddings can be terribly over priced, no matter how simple you would like them to be!
The ways that people have personalised their weddings interests me also. I’m really not a white taffeta kind-a-gal and I just thought some of you nookies might have some ideas.
Thats all!
So Acer are you married? What did you love about your day? What do you remember the most? What things do you wish you had done differently?
I am used to giving my time as I play music and entertain as a volunteer on a regular basis at a retirement home and yes in giving I have received. Sorry, I don’t think we can go to Perth to play for your wedding although one my friends did go to Perth just a few months ago to do a gig for his friend who got married there. You could try one of the wineries in Perth since there are so many of them around. You could also try to get a council permit and have a wedding in one of parks in Perth.
Hire or borrow:
a panel van, some trestle tables, some chairs, a garden refuse bin (for ice and later rubbish), a ghetto-blaster plus CD’s of your choice, paper plates and plastic glasses.
Go to any one of Perth’s beautiful parks and bag a barbie.
Tell all guests its a BYO, bring a plate. See if you can get someone well-off to shout a case of champers and a few slabs (future in-laws?).
Worked for us in Melbourne. Happy couple went off to Honeymoon Suite in local hotel (courtesy future other in-laws), guests continued to party on in local hostelries.
Inexpensive (not cheap!), very little pressure and a good time had by all.
I really didn’t like the overpriced bon-boneirre’s (sorry about the shocking spelling - I mean those little wedding favours you leave on guests tables). Instead when we sent out wedding thankyou cards we included a professional photo of the wedding party. You can also add one of them too (if you have one). Seemed to get a good reaction as a few recently married friends did the same
Other ideas:
- Hold the reception at the same place the ceremony is held.
- be upstanding: some places hold ‘cocktail’ functions where there are no tables (we did manage a few to be setup for the grandparents however with a “Reserved for Grandparents” sign - they were quite chuffed). This was much cheaper and many guests appreciate not being stuck at a table with people they didn’t know
- Supply your own alcohol. Much cheaper than buying there and much more to my tastes
All the very best for your big day
Your wedding is a special day to be had by all. i think anyway a wedding that is talked about for some time after means it was a great day. You want it to be differant and special. I don’t know what your tastes are or if you are a city dweller or country bumkin. But the main thing is to cut costs. An out door open smorgus board is a great way to go. Ask friends and family to make a plate to share. Older guests love to show off their cooking skills. Get a trailer and take a couche out for the older guests. Being out in the open air means you have no problems for friends that smoke. Go back in time, let everyone do a little bit and alot gets done. Make it your presents for those to share by taking part in making your day special. Hay bails spread on the back of a truck makes a great stage. I love the old fashion things in life, when everyone chipped in and everyone set out to have a good time. Well I hope this helps. Also makes it easy for any children around. Not fussy and fancy just soft and plain.
In terms of catering, it’s just a matter of hunting around. If you don’t do it in your backyard or a family/ friend’s, there are places which let you BYO, so if you have some kitchen-loving Mum’s and Aunties you’re all set!! But there are some really reasonably priced catering places around. A friend recently had her wedding at the Fitzroy Gardens and it was so, so beautiful. The reception was then held at the bowls club, so we had a really fun night barefoot bowling!! They did the whole night REALLY cheaply. Just pick two or three things which are REALLY important to you then don’t stress about scimping and saving on the other. It’s all about putting a personal stamp on the day, making it memorable and fun, not about the silver lining!!
thanks everyone - heaps of food for thought!
I am getting married in 8 weeks, and am planning on keeping costs down. As a part of this, we have asked everyone we have invited to “bring a plate to share” - the reaction to it has been great, people are excited about what they can bring, and I think many of them are looking forward to showing off what they can do! We booked the Twon Hall, which only cost £200, and are going to go to Macro and get wholesale booze, wedding cake is being done by my mother-in-law to be, flowers by my grandma, my uncle is my chauffeur… everyone is getting ninvolved, and they all like being useful!
It seems to me that this is the real spirit of our wedding - our friends and family all bringing their own support and help into our lives, helping us along - just as they all have for all of our lives.
How lucky we are!!